A Letter to a Loss Mum

Hey you. Yes, you.

The one who feels like you’ve been turned inside out and upside down. The one who doesn’t recognise herself anymore. I see you.

I know it feels like you've lost everything, especially yourself. Your old identity? Gone. And control? Well, let’s just say it left the building and didn’t even leave a note. Life might feel like a storm right now, and you're just trying to hold on for dear life (probably in your PJs, eating cereal for dinner—been there).

But here's the thing: You’re still here. And that means something. You’re going through something that no one can fully explain, but somehow, you're doing it. Even if it doesn’t feel like it.

The woman you used to be? She’s changed. She’s scarred and bruised, yes, but she’s also becoming something new. Someone stronger. Someone driven by the things she now knows in her bones. You might not feel it now, and that’s okay. That power doesn’t come back all at once—it’s like your keys; it’ll show up when you least expect it (probably in the fridge).

You won’t be the same. You’ll never be that old version of you again—and honestly, that’s okay. Who says we have to go back? You’re on your way to becoming something more. Someone wiser, someone who has been through the fire and made it through.

One step at a time. Some days, those steps will feel like climbing a mountain, other days like a wobbly toddler—but each step? That’s progress, my friend.

You’ve got this. Even when it feels like you don’t. You’ll look back one day and realise that underneath all the pain and confusion, a new version of you was quietly forming. A version that is a little scarred, maybe a little more cautious—but also powerful, driven, and so deeply compassionate towards yourself and others.

So, keep going. When you're ready, she’ll come back to you—this new, incredible version of you. And trust me, she’s going to be someone worth knowing.

With love and a virtual hug (the kind that’s just the right amount of squish for even the non huggers of you),

Kate x